Three Rules of the First Date

You might be stumped about what to do for your first date, if you haven’t been using online dating sites for long. That’s totally normal, but there’s no reason to worry or get stressed. We’ll walk you through everything you need to know to make this a first date to wow her.

There are three rules you should follow that are important to remember, no matter where you’re taking her.

1. Go somewhere you can talk.

It sounds fun to go to a concert, to a movie, or to a play your first time. You’ve probably heard that women are bored by the same old, same old things from first dates, and you want to change it up.

While that is admirable and not a problem, there is something to be said for some of the old standbys. It’s important to remember that while it’s good to change things up, some things become standbys for a reason. Sometimes, it’s a very important reason.

For example, the reason it has become an important tip for the first date to go to a restaurant or coffee house is because those are places you can go to actually talk and hear each other. That’s an important factor in a first date, and don’t forget it.

If you want to get to know a woman, make sure you go somewhere you can talk and see her face. Otherwise, you could be sitting in a movie theater with the left side of anyone’s face and it would be the same.

2. Go somewhere local.

There are no major first date rules in Toronto specifically. In general, however, if you want to look like someone this girl will want to date, you’re going to want to avoid chain restaurants.

Chains make it look like you don’t have much of an opinion of your own, or that you don’t get out much. Neither of these are good ways to impress a woman, and they’re pretty bad ways to start any first date conversation.

Go somewhere you’re familiar with, somewhere you’ve been before, and somewhere you know is good.

If for some reason you don’t know anywhere, for example if you’ve only recently moved to the city, look up someplace online that’s supposed to be very good. Stop by before your date to vet the place, and then talk about it with confidence and surety.

3. Plan a followup.

It’s important to have an idea of where you can go after your date if everything goes well and you don’t want to say goodbye yet. Otherwise, you can run the risk of looking like you’re done spending time with her when you want anything but that.

One good idea is an art gallery. You can still speak, though it’s in hushed tones, and you’ll be able to see her taste in many things. You can also show off a bit if you know something about art.

If that doesn’t appeal to you, at least have a walking course planned out. It’s perfectly acceptable to go on a walk after dinner. In fact, it’s one of our favorite first date tips, since it gives you a chance to get to know each other and still offers some distractions. You won’t have to be continually staring in each others’ eyes all night.

Make sure you have something planned, even if you don’t think it’s very exciting.