Profiles that WORK

There are three strategies towards making a killer profile for the dating sites that will vastly improve your rate of response from women, as well as making them want to contact you first.

1. Live in the NOW

You might be really proud of the haircut you had in 2007, and that’s great for a family memory. However, if you’re still using that photograph to ensnare women, you’re going to have a horrible time of it.

Nothing is worse than seeing disappointment on your date’s face the first time you meet her.

The best way to avoid disappointing your date in-person is to be genuine and authentic online. If you have to keep up a charade, this is going to be a horrible relationship, no matter how much you like the girl.

Not only should your picture be current, but the rest of your profile should also be current. You don’t want to be the guy that puts up all of your information that was relevant and important to you ten years ago.

Keep your profile information limited to your current interests, your current job (even if your last one was better), and your current likes and dislikes. In the long run, you’re much more likely to get the results you want from your dating profile this way.

2. Talk up your good qualities—politely.

Confidence is key to making sure a woman finds you attractive. This is just as true on a dating site as it is when you meet a woman in person. You want her to know the good things about you, so make sure she does—if you can do it without being a braggart.

Imagine you’re going to the mechanic to get your car fixed. You ask if he can fix the car, and he answers:

“Well, yeah, I guess…I mean, I’ve fixed some cars before, but I’m not really sure….I don’t really think I’m that good at it, there’s probably a lot of other mechanics you’d rather go to, but if you just give me a chance, I might be able to fix your car…”

You’d probably turn right around and go somewhere else, wouldn’t you?

You want to be the mechanic who says, “Yes, I know what the issues are, and your vehicle is in good hands with me.” No, this isn’t a transaction, but we’re not going to pretend that dating is so different from an exchange of services. You want something from her, she wants something from you, and you should both be able to get what you want. Show it in your dating description.

3. Put up a picture or two.

This is important. No, women aren’t as visual about learning things as men are, but they still want to make sure that you look like someone they want to date before they commit to spending time with you, online or offline.

The best way to show off what you have is by putting up a picture, or preferably, a few pictures. Don’t go overboard. You don’t want to look vain, and putting up a whole bunch of pictures of yourself makes you look self-centered and pretty conceited. That’s not what dating profiles are for.

Make sure that your pictures have a purpose. You’re allowed a maximum of two pictures where you’re just smiling for the camera. After that, they should be action shots, or pictures of you with someone or something important.