The dating world is rough, and we all know it. There are so many options for singles these days that it’s almost overwhelming, and it’s easy to get lost in all the online dating sites available. But if there’re really so many fish in the sea, why do none of them seem to be nipping at your line? Check below to see if you’re giving off warning signals and tips on how to get your act together to land the lucky lady of your dreams.
Don’t Be Desperate
How long has it been since your last hookup? A week? A month, maybe five? Even longer? Ladies don’t have to know that, and most of them don’t want to know. Even if it’s been a while, don’t come on too strong. Don’t slobber all over her like she’s a ribeye and you haven’t seen meat in ages. It’ll just make her start thinking about all the reasons just why you’re so hard-up. Keep it cool, be easygoing, and don’t show up to the first date with a dozen roses and a diamond ring.
Don’t Be Too Disinterested
We all know that there are hundreds of dating sites out there for Canadian singles, filled with gorgeous ladies just waiting to be chatted up. If you’re out with one of them, and it doesn’t look like it’s panning out, no big loss, right? Don’t give up so easily. Your date will notice, and there goes that opportunity. Keep trying to find some common interests, and who knows. Even if you don’t wind up hooking up with her, maybe you can strike up a friendship and that new social circle will let you meet up with all HER friends.
Don’t Dwell On Your Exes
Come on, does this really need to be said? Your buddies probably got tired of hearing about them months ago. If they don’t want to hear you moan about your exes anymore, why would she? You certainly don’t want to hear her harp on about her old boyfriends.
This isn’t just about talking about them. Don’t constantly compare them in your mind, either. Did your ex have blonder hair or bigger boobs? Well, she’s in the past. Focus on the chick in front of you, and don’t try to recreate the same relationship you previously had. Finding new common interests will help you avoid any inevitable comparisons. If you and your ex were big into hiking, don’t invite your new lady on a mountain trip. Instead, bond over your mutual love of the Leafs with tickets to a game?
Don’t Get Too Complacent
Just because there haven’t been any girls to bring home lately doesn’t mean that you should let your place become a garbage dump. Claiming that you’ll just clean it up when you want to bring someone home is easy enough to say, and as hard as hell to follow. What sounds easier: getting into the habit of doing the dishes daily, or having to plow through a mountain of them in an hour before your date arrives?
This goes for your personal hygiene, too. You wouldn’t go to a job interview looking (and smelling) like you rooted through your dirty laundry, so keep that in mind for dates.
Don’t Be Defeated
Rejection is just a fact of life. Those girls you’re chatting with probably have to deal with it. But going into something expecting to lose never did anyone any good. So keep your chin up, and put yourself out there.